How often do we approach the end of the year and think back to how we would like to have done things differently. Then we decide, or RESOLVE, to do things differently in the coming year. Tis the season to start thinking about how we want next year to be different - to be BETTER.
But the reality is that resolutions are rarely successful. According to some studies, less than 9% of resolutions are actually kept and the “bad habits” rear their ugly heads again soon.
But there IS a better way. To start, don’t make resolutions one time of year. Always be looking for ways to improve yourself. This may sound simple and even obvious, but how many of us don’t make those changes as we notice the bad habits? Airline pilots and ship captains don’t start off with a destination and not make any course corrections. In fact, flying and sailing require constant course corrections. So why not make this part of YOUR life?
If you think that doing some leads be being self-critical, understand that this is a matter of perspective. Rather than being self-critical, think if it as a positive. Understand that the process is a POSITIVE thing.
Set goals. Many people do that, but then lose sight of them. So make sure you list your goals someplace where you’ll be forced to look at them frequently. But don’t feel like you’re a slave to those goals. If at some point you realize that what you’ve put down isn’t what you’re really striving for, make sure you change it. Note that we’re not saying to make it easier. If your goal is to run a marathon, don’t change it to running a 5K. A 5K is a step towards your ultimate goal, but keep your goal in mind. But if your goal is to get a new job with a 10% increase in base pay, don’t settle for 5%. Know what you want and keep working towards it.
Also, review your goals frequently to determine if something is no longer something you really want. We often have dreams of doing something and then, upon further reflection, realize that we want something different instead. Make sure you make those course corrections.
It helps to share these goals with someone to hold us accountable. But too often, we feel funny about sharing our goals with a family member or friend. We feel judged or maybe we feel that the friends won’t assign the same level of importance to our goal as we do and won’t hold us accountable. Here is where a coach comes in. A coach understands how to keep people on-track with their goals, how to determine when a person really isn’t invested in a goal and how to engage people in deeper conversations regarding their goals.
The idea is to make goal setting a constant thing. Don’t wait until the end of the year to realize you want to make a change. Once you decide, take action towards your goals TODAY!