I wanted to continue the conversation from last week about living consciously vs. sleep walking through life and I came across a few ideas this weekend that I wanted to share with you.

In Rodgers and Hammerstein's South Pacific, Bloody Mary states "You've got to have a dream, if you don't have a dream, how you gonna have a dream come true?"

In "The Unconscious Conspiracy: Why Leaders Can't Lead" by Warren Bennis, the author suggests that the reason leaders can't lead is that they are "consumed by the routine".  They are so caught up in the dailiness and so caught up in the stuff that comes across their desks that they don't have the time or energy to think about the vision and where they are going.

Does this sound familiar to you? Are you caught up in the dailiness of life? Bloody Mary had it right - you've got to have a dream.  But many people confuse a dream with a vision.  They dream and dream but don't have a vision.

So what separates the two? In simple terms, as I see it, a dream is just a dream, but a vision is a dream with an action plan.  Is it really that hard to take a dream and put some plans around it? Not really. Your vision doesn't have to be something like taking over the world.  But if you want something and continuously work towards achieving it, you will certainly be way far ahead of those that just dream and wish and don't do anything about it.

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Living Consciously is about existing in a state of awareness. It is thinking about, evaluating and analyzing your choices, habits and action to understand why you are doing them and how they affect the direction your life is taking. Instead, most people sleep walk through life and wake up many years later regretting the lost time and opportunity that passed them by. Have you ever looked at the calendar at the end of the year and ask "Where did the year go and what did I accomplish?" For too many people, its a yearly occurrence that never seems to end.  Instead, live a life of mindful awareness, where you really consider your choices and your habits and most importantly your actions and how they can affect your life plan.  Don't have a life plan? Develop one.  Set your goals and objectives for the next year, 3 years, 5 years, 10... You can always adjust, but at least you'll be moving forward towards something. Toyota got it right - "Move Forward".

Be Consistent

I've recently observed a situation where a manager oversees several different groups.  One of her groups is asking for something that is certainly within her authority to grant.  But she has been stringing this group along for several months now, under the auspices of needing to get higher level approval. But other groups that this person manages have been doing what the first group has been asking for for some time and there is no intent to change things to match the first group. And understandably, the first group is getting agitated.

I use the example above to stress the importance of being consistent with what you do with others.  Whether it be at work, or at home with your children or simply between your friends, it is important that you remain as consistent as possible.  In the example above, the manager in question is starting to lose credibility with her staff because the reasons she is giving for not granting the first group permission are inconsistent and are generally believed to be convenient excuses and flies in the face of the facts of this situation.  Situations like this are the seeds of mistrust.  If you are inconsistent with your children, allowing one thing one time and then denying it the next, and there is no valid reason for the different situations, the child will be confused with how to act.  In the business world, it creates a situation where by your employees will not feel that they have the authority to act without your permission or consent.  That creates a dependence situation.  Some managers crave that, but a good manager will shun it.  Good managers will create the environment whereby their employees are empowered to make decision.  Empower your employees and create a situation where your employees trust what you say.  Be consistent.

First Understand The Problem

How often do you find yourself rushing in to fix things with good advise and good intentions, only to find that you "misunderstood" the problem? Too often in today's rushed society, we are in such a hurry, we don't take the time to make sure that we understand the problem before trying to develop or deploy a solution. By then, we often times need to back out and start anew and losing time! By taking the time to truly understand the problem before trying to solve it, you can save time and energy and look truly smart for taking the time to listen and understand.

Busy is not the Point

Walk up to many people in a social setting and ask how they’re doing.  “Busy", they will tell you.  “Very Busy”.  And we’re supposed to be impressed.  “Oh, they must be doing well, they’re so busy!” you may think. 

But busy is not the point.  No medals for busy.  You can win medals for efficiency.  You can win medals for being productive or for doing work that matters.  But no awards for busy.

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